Brenda Maria (Nichols) Tolliver, age 66, of Indianapolis, Indiana passed away on Saturday, May 18, 2019 at St. Vincent Indianapolis Hospital. She was the loving daughter of the late Marlin Robert and Mary Ellen (Bailey) Nichols born on May 28, 1952 in Indianapolis, Indiana.
She was a graduate of Bishop Chatard High School Class of 1970. Brenda then attended Nursing school. Professionally, she worked at the St. Vincent’s Heart Institute (The Care Group). Brenda enjoyed watching old movies, reading mystery books, bird watching, spending time with her family and grandchildren, and was a wine connoisseur and avid Colts fan. Brenda was united in marriage on June 28, 2003 in Indianapolis to Tim Tolliver.
Brenda is survived by her loving husband, Tim Tolliver of Indianapolis, Indiana; her loving children, Jared Dettmer, Jon Dettmer, and Colleen (Dettmer) Fosnight; her siblings Patricia Dagon, Andrea Maynard, and Ken Nichols; and her two grandchildren Gabriella and Gavin Fosnight.
In addition to her parents, Brenda is preceded in death by her parents and her sister, Marlene Glomski.
Friends may visit from 6:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. on Wednesday, May 22, 2019 at Indiana Funeral Care, 8151 Allisonville Road, Indianapolis, Indiana 46250. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 10:00 a.m. on Thursday, May 23, 2019 at St. Pius X Catholic Church, 7200 Sarto Drive, Indianapolis, Indiana 46240 with Father James M. Farrell officiating. Rite of Interment will follow in Oaklawn Memorial Gardens, 9700 Allisonville Road, Indianapolis, Indiana 46250. Please direct memorial contributions to the American Heart Association or Disabled American Veterans. Indiana Funeral Care entrusted with arrangements.
Helen Mercer says
Dear Tim
You and your family are in our hearts and prayers. We are so sorry for your loss.
Love uncle Bob and aunt Helen
Jan Matthews says
Dear Colleen, Jared and Jon,
I was so saddened to learn about the death of your Mom. She was a very special friend to me during our years at King of Glory and I always think of her when I remember those good times.
Please know you are in my thoughts and I care deeply for your loss.
Jan Matthews and the Matthews Family
Kathy Bray and The Staff of John Hartman says
Brenda was a dental patient at our practice. I had the privilege of seeing her every 3 months at 7:00 am sharp! I always smiled when I saw her on my schedule! Brenda was so pleasant and easy to chat with! She was so proud of her family and loved to talk about Gabby and Gavin! I will miss her! my sincerest sympathies to all of you!
Andrea Grube says
My heart goes out to all of the family. Brenda was an amazing woman. I will miss her hugs, voice, and laugh. “Drink from the hose!” I will never forget her and I was privileged to know her. I am so sorry you all have to endure this. My deepest sympathies.
Emily Pursel says
Brenda was just the best. I will forever have the fondest memories of the years we worked together. Her laugh, kindness, and soft soul were unmatched. Colleen, Jared, and Jon, please know you are in my heart during this time. I will forever hear her calling me “Pursey”. Such a neat lady! It was a privilege to know her.
Eldredge family says
So blessed to have met Brenda and she will be missed. May the holy spirit bring comfort to you all in the coming days
Nancy and Jerry Brennan from Crawfordsville, Indiana says
She was such a special woman, and so loving to her phone patients with the blood results and advice. She really cared God be with all of you at this time
Donna Smith says
Colleen, I will be praying for you, your brothers, and the rest of your family. Your mom was so young! I am saddened that she will not be here to watch your children grow into adults, but she helped create you into a loving and caring young woman. She was also able to see you as a loving wife, mom, and successful educator. We are leaving fo Europe Wednesday morning, but I wanted to tell you I am 🙏🙏🙏🙏for you, and your babies too.
Toni Puhl says
Dear Tim,Jared,Colleen ,Joe,Jon and family. Brenda loved her family so deeply you are so lucky to have felt that love. Gabby and Gavin were her pride and joy she talked about them with so much joy. I just wish our friendship didn’t have to end after seven short years. She is the true definition of a good friend and I miss her so much already.
Prayers for you all as you say goodbye to this wonderful woman.
Love you forever my friend….
Toni
Linda Campbell says
Dear Jared,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mother. She sounds like a very lovely mother and friend to many. My family are praying for God’s loving comfort to you and your siblings at tbe sad time.
Sincerely, Linda Campbell
Tim Kniess says
Tim,
We’re sorry for your loss. The families are in our prayers. Call me if there is anything we can help you with.
Tim And Tammy Kniess
Thomas Jonas says
Tim, much time has passed since we shared a work space but, one thing is universal. The loss of a loved one creates a void that can never be filled. My thoughts and prayers for peace for you and the family. I wish I had been able to get to know Brenda. I’d be happy to hear your stories, out on a lake here in Michigan, should you need, or want, to share them. God Bless!
Bryce Thompson says
Tim, Though I’ve never met you in person nor your wife. But what you’ve told me says it all. She was a warrior and loved life. You’re a great man. All the guys in HAC love ya bud.
Coy Devine says
Dear Jared, Colleen and Jon. I’m so very sorry for the loss of your Mom. Jared when you were born and I took your Mom’s place at Dr Isenbarger’s office, I tried so hard to fill your Mom’s shoes. They loved her so. I was happy to be a small part of watching you three grow up. Sorry about all those shots I had to give you… Brenda and I were friends for so long and I always enjoyed seeing her in the office. I know it’s going to be very hard to heal from this loss but her spirit will live on in all your hearts. She was such a sweet soul. And had such a great laugh! The picture you chose of her is so beautiful. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Tman says
Miss you girl. ❤️